My colleague and I are playing match-makers for another colleague who hasn’t dated in a few years. In Guyana, where we aren’t too trusting of e-love, we’re having some challenges finding her a suitable candidate.
So, I’m sharing some lessons I learned, for my colleague and anyone who is thinking of dating this year.
1. Don’t date if you don’t want to. Periodt.
Dating is not a prerequisite for anything, and it certainly isn’t mandatory. Women especially, feel pressure to date because their ‘biological clock is ticking’. Being single and happy is much more important than being miserable in a relationship.
2. Set your own Relationship Goals.
Like personal goals, relationship goals must be tailored to each person. Set goals that are SMART and not simply those that are cute or trending on social media. One of my relationship goals is to travel somewhere new every year with my partner.
3. Know what you want
Know what you hope to achieve by dating and specifically, what qualities you are looking for in the other person. You may not be certain of everything but having an idea of some things helps a lot. Listen, people got things to do so don’t be out here wasting nobody’s time.
4. Do not compromise your values
We all have values and beliefs that we hold very dear. Sometimes though, without giving much thought, we compromise our values to accommodate people. Once this starts happening, you are in the wrong place.
5. “Doan leh nobody tek you fi idiot”
Never allow yourself to be taken advantage of in any way. Set boundaries, even if it’s just in your mind. Unless of course, that’s what you want. In that case, who am I to withhold you from living your best life.
I hope you find these tips useful. If you’re dating already, leave one of your tips below.