Protect Your Peace


A few years ago, I went into a café to breathe. It was a long day and I felt completely drained. As I ate, a gentleman asked to share the table with me, which I agreed to. A few minutes in, he started to relate his troubles to me. I stopped him and said, “Sir, I came here to breathe. I’m not having a good day and I really can’t take in any more. I’m sorry”. I think he got up and left. For a long time after, I thought of that man and what happened to him. I felt a sense of guilt for not listening to him but on that day, I was filled with my own woes.

Now, the more time I spend discovering myself I realize how important it is to protect my peace. I am becoming more selective about my time, relationships and whatever I give my energy to because I can’t give my energy to everything that happens around me. As many times as I try to, some days it is necessary to take time off to breathe. Inhale. Exhale. Often, it’s a few minutes away from my desk or putting my headphones on and disconnecting from everything else. Some days, it’s waking up before everyone else and mediating. Other days, it’s simply saying, “Sorry, I am filled”.

That day in the café, I was filled with disappointment and a full share of problems while empty of positivity, hope and most of all, my peace. Perhaps, that stranger was too. Where ever he is, I do hope he has made peace with himself and all that had happened. For me, I am learning to do the same every day. Don’t let life’s busyness and chaos make you miserable and unhappy. Guard what you consume, or it will consume you. When you discover what gives you peace, feed your soul. Do it deliberately and unapologetically!

5 Lessons Failure Taught Me


I have failed many times. At many things. I have let people down and sometimes, I let myself down. I have failed in my attempts to complete tasks and I have failed to even begin some of them. I am thankful though, that through all these experiences, I have learned some lessons that have stayed with me and helped me to become a better person.

I’m sharing five (5) of them below:

1. Availability is better than ability
It’s something my English teacher told me that really didn’t make any sense at the time. Nearly a decade later, I get it! You can be the brightest bulb in the set but if you’re too busy, your intelligence will count for nothing. Muy Importante!

2. Procrastination is a thief of time
“Stop putting off the work!”, That’s also me to me.
Really, do it now! The hour or day ahead you’re waiting on has enough for itself already. Getting it done right now is the key to your success. (Which makes me pause this blog and finish the paper I’ve been putting off. Brb!)

3. Every L is a Lesson
Every account of failure in your life will teach you a lesson. It may be hard to think that something as crushing could turn out be a blessing, but it always is! Some of my lessons have taught me patience (which God knows I really needed), humility and strength. You will always come out of situations better than you went in when you acknowledge that they’re lessons.

4. Take Responsibility
You will never be able to control everything that happens but what you can control is how you react to what happens. Take responsibility for your actions, reactions, and their consequences. It a great disservice to ourselves and others spending time to affix blame. When you must; apologize, forgive and love all.

5. Everything will be okay
I’m not even lying! How many times have we overwhelmed ourselves with all the negative possible outcomes of a situation? Exactly, too many! It doesn’t matter what happens, in the end, everything will be okay!

I hope you’ve enjoyed reading this blog. I’d love for you to share a lesson failure has taught you below!